The Torment of Making a Decision

*the upstairs bathroom of the "old" house -

 

My friend, Bev, recently said to me "To move your family from one town to another is one of the hardest decisions you will ever make for your family." 

She is right.

My mind has been in a whirl.  One minute I'm excited with the prospect of moving into Dave's family home.  I'm eager for the challenge of remodeling the house and making it ours.  I'm anticipating the joy of five acres with blueberries, a creek, and room to run.

And in the space of a heartbeat tears well up at the thought of leaving this place.  Our children's school is amazing.  We've made some good friends here.  There are great opportunities living so close to the State University.  We've grown to love the area.

In my next breath I think of how much I miss the Portland area.  I'm perfectly comfortable with moving back.  It was in our "grand plan" to always return.  We'd be so much closer to family.

And then my heart aches at the thought of leaving here.  It's a quiet place.  Our neighbors are pretty cool (for the most part).  There's no traffic to fight.  It's a slower pace of living. 

Our realtor is coming in two weeks.  We'll discuss this house and when to put it on the market. 

My heart aches just thinking about moving.  And then two seconds later my heart skips a beat with excitment.  I'm not sure which feeling is the right one.

Comments

[Karisma]

I know just how you feel. I think once you get going you will much better about it all. How exciting! There is always such a fresh feeling to moving into a new home and getting settled again. Good luck with it all. Hope the move goes smoothly for you. Hugs xox

[Sayre]

We felt the same way when we moved back into town from the country (a necessary move as we both have elderly parents occasionally in need of timely help). We missed the old place so much - but now when we go by there, there's a feeling of "Thank goodness we got out when we did!" That whole county has kind of gone downhill since we left (at least that's our perception). You're gonna love your new place - especially once you've made it YOURS!

[Beth]

I don't think either feeling is wrong. You guys will figure it all out and it will be good!

[Far Side of Fifty]

Forks in the road are never easy. Take two pieces of paper and put the good and the bad points on each piece of paper..tack it up someplace and then pray. It will all be clear before you know it:)

[johng]

You'll make the right decision!

[Amanda]

Ummmmmmm, you forgot to mention that your sister is in Portland - and about to have your baby nephew!!

[Robinella]

It's probably easier for me since we're hsling, but I'd go in a heart beat. I'm a sucker for something new (and old). I can't wait to sell our house and find our new homestead. We're on the prowl for land right now.

[mark]

Those all seems like natural feelings when big change is afoot. It'll all work out wonderfully, I know it.

[Angelina]

Weirdly - I've been having many of the same thoughts lately. I can't say this on my own blog but Philip is looking for work and it seems very likely that we'll either be moving to Portland or up to Seattle because there are NO jobs worth having where we are. Plus I kind of hate my town. On the flip side I love my house and my garden and my kid loves where we are and is going to a great charter school. If we move we will be renting, not owning, probably for the rest of our lives.

By the way - totally jealous of the bathroom pictured in this post!

Having such mixed emotions is totally natural and it won't stop until you've made the move and are settling in and the old place is sold. It will take time, for sure. But I think the benefits of this move will outweigh all the doubts. How are you moving to Portland and have five acres? Is it on Sauvie Island?